He Wanted You To Know
Bryan Curtis
started smoking at 13, never thinking that 20 years later it would kill him and leave a wife and children alone. In his last
weeks, he set out with a message for young people.
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On the day of Bryan's death, June 3, wife Bobbie and son Bryan keep a bedside vigil. |
ST.
PETERSBURG -- Cigarette smoke hangs in the air in the room where Bryan Lee Curtis lies dying of lung cancer.
His head, bald from chemotherapy,
lolls on a pillow. The bones of his cheeks and shoulders
protrude under taut skin.
His eyes are open, but he can no longer respond to his mother or his wife, Bobbie, who married him in a makeshift ceremony
in this room three weeks ago after doctors said there was no hope.
In Bryan's emaciated hands,
Bobbie has propped a photograph taken just two months ago. It shows a muscular and seemingly healthy Bryan holding his 2-year-old
son, Bryan Jr. In the picture, he is 33. He turned 34 on May 10.
A pack of cigarettes and
a lighter sit on a table near Bryan's bed in his mother's living room. Even though tobacco caused the cancer now eating through
his lungs and liver, Bryan smoked until a week ago, when it became impossible.
Across the room, a 20-year-old
nephew crushes out a cigarette in a large glass ashtray where the butt joins a dozen others. Bobbie Curtis says she'll try
to stop after the funeral, but right now, it's just too difficult. Same for Bryan's mother, Louise Curtis.
"I just can't do it now,"
she says, although she hopes maybe she can after the funeral.
Bryan knew how hard it
is to quit. But when he learned he would die because of his habit, he thought maybe he could persuade at least a few kids
not to pick up that first cigarette. Maybe if they could see his sunken cheeks, how hard it was becoming to breathe, his shriveled
body, it might scare them enough.
So a man whose life was
otherwise unremarkable set out in the last few weeks of his life with a mission.
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Bryan Lee Curtis, then 33, holds son Bryan Jr., 2, in this March 29 photo. Curtis would die about tw |
Bryan started when he
was just 13, building up to more than two packs a day. He talked about quitting from time to time, but never seriously tried.
Plenty of time for that,
he figured. Older people got cancer. Not people in their 30s, not people who worked in construction, as a roofer, as a mechanic.
He had no health insurance.
But he was more worried about his mother, 57, who had smoked since she was 25.
"He would say, "Mom, don't
worry about me. Worry about yourself. I'm healthy,' " Louise Curtis remembers. "You think this would happen later, when you're
60 or 70 years old, not when you're his age."
He knew, only a few days after he went to the hospital on April 2 with severe abdominal
pain, how wrong he had been. He had oat cell lung cancer that had spread to his liver. He probably had not had it long. Also
called small cell lung cancer, it's an aggressive killer that usually claims the lives of its victims within a few months.
While it seems unusual
to the Curtis family, Dr. Jeffrey Paonessa, Bryan's oncologist, said he is seeing more lung cancer in young adults.
"We've seen lung cancer
earlier and earlier because people are starting to smoke earlier and earlier," Paonessa said. Chemotherapy sometimes slows
the process, but had little effect in Bryan's case, he said.
Bryan also knew, a few
days after the diagnosis, that he wanted somehow to try to save at least one kid from the same fate. He sat down and talked
with Bryan Jr. and his 9-year-old daughter, Amber, who already had been caught once with a cigarette. But he wanted to do
more. Somehow, he had to get his story out.
When he still had some
strength to leave the house, kids would stare.
"They'd come up and look
at him because he looked so strange," Louise Curtis said. "He'd look at them and say, "This is what happens to you when you
smoke.'
"The kids would say, "Oh,
man. I can't believe it,' " Louise Curtis said.
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Louise Curtis grieves for a son who told her, a smoker for 32 years, to worry about herself, not him |
In the last few weeks,
Bryan's mother has been the agent for his mission to accomplish some good with the tragedy. She has called newspapers and
radio and television stations, seeking someone willing to tell her son's story, willing to help give him the one thing he
wanted before he died. Bryan never got to tell his story to the public. He spoke for the last time an hour before a visit
from a Times reporter and photographer.
"I'm too skinny. I can't
fight anymore," he whispered to his mother at 9 a.m. June 3. He died that day at 11:56 a.m., just nine weeks after the diagnosis.
Bryan Lee Curtis Sr. was
buried at Memorial Park Cemetery in St. Petersburg on June 8, a rare cloudy day that threatened rain.
At the funeral service
at nearby Blount, Curry and Roel Funeral Home, Bryan's casket was open and 50 friends and relatives could see the devastating
effects of the cancer.
Addiction is more powerful.
As the graveside ritual
ended, a handful of relatives backed away from the gathering, pulled out packs of cigarettes and lit up.
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After the graveside service June 8, this friend and a handful of relatives light up. |
By SUE LANDRY
© St. Petersburg Times,
published June 15, 1999
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